THE MOTHERLESS CHILD

The motherless child did not grow up in the lap of luxury, but in the lap of lack.  She cried for love and was scolded; sought recognition and was denied validation; never measuring up to some mysterious yardstick she felt the sting of criticism.

Yes, I was that child and I created a mother who did not see me.  She saw a lump of clay to mold into her image.  Living in Izmir, Turkey I and my siblings after me, when we reached the age of nine were sent away to be further molded by others.

I, Child of God, Consciousness Itself, dreaming a 3D life had to learn the rules of the game.  No longer free to create instantaneously; not able to express my power and my inner light, I had to learn about lack and limitation.  That’s how the game is played!

The lesson I chose was validation.  I remember being banished to my room and saying to myself repeatedly, “I am good”.  I don’t remember what my transgression was, but I was reminding myself of my innate perfection and validating myself.

With the lesson of validation came the lesson of duality – eating the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil and the lesson of judgment. I could not be seen naked, so I clothed myself with the persona taken from mother’s closet, to hide my truth even from myself.  I remember having dreams where I was chased by monsters, desperately trying to get away and finding no place to hide.  One terrifying dream I remember very vividly, perhaps it was just a vision.  What I saw was many disembodied hands all wagging a finger at me in disapproval.

At the age of nine, I was sent to live with my mother’s mother in Istanbul. Grandmother was a missionary and a businesswoman in charge of the finances for the American Board of Missions for the Near East. Very left brained and analytical, though she loved me, was unable to show it; very much like my mother.

Grandmother left early in the morning and arrived in time for supper, leaving me with the missionary family in the mission house where grandmother and I shared a wing on the ground floor. This lasted three years while I attended the nearby Robert College Community School for grades 4-6, before being sent away to live with an aunt and uncle in Washington DC.

Again, I ask, why did I choose this? Why did I create this? My schoolmates had closets full of beautiful clothes and lots of games and toys, one of them collected horses and her room was decorated with anything equine.  I was a misfit.   I was ashamed to invite them to the servant’s quarters that grandmother and I occupied, and I didn’t have the toys and clothes they had.

Without validation and comparing myself to my peers, I judged myself inferior.  This pattern was to continue throughout my school years. Being a stranger and lacking confidence, I later made what  soon seemed like bad decisions, made in search of love and validation.

Why did I create this movie?  Why did I choose these experiences?  What was the lesson?

At age seventeen, I had a dream in which a Light Being (I identified as Jesus) gave me my mission.  I was to lead the multitudes away from the false Christ.  It wasn’t until decades later, that I began to see how my life has prepared me for my work.

But first, I had to clear the multitude of wagging fingers out of my head and reconnect with the Christ in me. Then I would have the clarity and the compassion to lead others, eventually pioneering a Unity church.  From there I evolved into a spiritual life coach.  Now I understand my life’s journey and why I, Consciousness, created it the way I did.

Living in the Fourth Dimension

This evening as I was contemplating what to write for my Sunday sermonette, I realized that living in the fourth dimension is a challenge.  With one foot in the third dimension of separation and ego, and the other foot in the fifth dimension of Oneness and Spirit, our perspective on life and our understanding of what it means to have a human body is shifting.  The question on my mind is what can we do that is different than what has been the norm for all or our lives, but no longer works?

I was at a gathering of friends this afternoon and the subject of big corporations and their demise came up. It was noted by one of my friends, that Disneyland, GE, General Motors for example, are self-destructing now that the visionaries are being replaced by short-sighted fast return policies.  It is not just corporations that are crumbling. All areas of society are dysfunctional. Especially in the area of civility, the very indicator of civilization.

My call is for women to step up and be the leaders.  The Dalai Lama said it would be western women that will save the world.  Why women?  How? What has to change?

Intellectual analysis, strategy, facts and figures only call on knowledge of the past. What I think the Dalai lama saw was that the feminine mind is intuitive, sees the big picture, works collaboratively and cooperatively for the good of family and by extension, the world. The feminine qualities of kindness, generosity and nurturing in both men and women is sorely needed now. We must value human life above material gain. We must honor, respect and  dignify  all people rather than have the consciousness of user mentality and survival of the fittest. I believe this is our soul-purpose.  This is why we volunteered to incarnate at this time.

Separation from our divinity began as far back as 1687, if not earlier,  when Sir Isaac Newton proposed his theory of a mechanistic universe. One hundred years later the industrial age moved us away from the land into cities further alienating us from the wonder and mystery of God. Thirdly, Charles Darwin’s writing about evolution in the Origin of Species 1857, separated us from nature even more, by erroneously leading us to believe that it is natural to prey on others in a dog eat dog world. These events form the backbone of our current lack of spirituality.

Our dysfunctional, diseased and dying civilization is a symptom of alienation from our core essence of decency, and love and of being unconscious of our divinity. As leaders, if we are to see any meaningful change, we need to address the core issue.  The old paradigm is to try to fix the symptoms.  We can no longer act as if this is a mechanistic universe.  Quantum physics is finally recognizing what the great masters and mystics have been telling us for thousands of years.  We are all one, without boundary, in an infinite and loving Conscious Field.

We are beginning to wake up to the truth of existence; that we live in an interconnected web, where everything effects everything else. But this has to be more that an intellectual understanding because the intellect draws on the storehouse of knowledge, conscious and mostly unconscious.  It must be “innerstood”. We believe what we experience. Oneness or expanded consciousness must be experienced.  The soul already knows Truth.  The heart knows.  Our work is to bring head and heart into alignment with the Quantum Field or Consciousness Itself.

The dream I had at age 17, to turn the masses away from false gods, has urgency now.  I cannot do it alone.  It is my mission to empower men and women to awaken to the soul and accomplish the purpose for which he or she came here, and be leaders in the new paradigm.  Let’s birth the new human and the 5^th dimension together.

The Vision

Men, women and children of all nations, colors, creeds, ethnicity and gender identities interacting in respectful and honorable ways; learning, laughing, working and playing together, living kindly on the earth and respecting all her children of land, sea and sky.

The Goal

To awaken the feminine in humanity in order to balance the left-brained rationality, exclusivity, and materialistic linear thinking, with right-brained heart-centered, in a collaborative and expansive, nurturing  inclusiveness.

The Purpose

• To heal the wounds of separation and domination.
• To stop the wanton destruction of Mother Earth.
• To stop the cruelty and injustice of hierarchical power.
• To change the paradigm of insular self-gratification and greed.

The Strategy

To raise consciousness through workshops, retreats, coaching, speaking and writing, using the arts, story and metaphor which are the languages of the soul.

The Slogan

Wake up! Your authentic life is calling!

I  lead workshops and retreats “For Awakening Now: Empowering women to live from their authenticity.” and I coach in groups and one-on-one.

If you are an entrepreneur you have probably struggled with confusion and overwhelm, and maybe you are still struggling.  In the beginning,starting your own business can be quite challenging. We want to learn everything we can about business and our particular service and how to market it. Before we know it we are in overwhelm – information overload.

I know that well. To compound matters, I am a Gemini. I love to learn new thing, and I am not satisfied with sticking to any one thing! I am all over the place with my interests: Art, Spirituality, Healing, Coaching and more. Can any of you relate?

Early on, I gave myself permission to diversify. My first model was Walter Russell who lived in the at the turn of the last century; a renaissance man who, with his wife Lao, devoted his life prodigiously to the arts, philosophy and science. One of his quotes is “Mediocrity is self-inflicted. Genius is self-bestowed.”

His genius lay in his total focus, “gathering thought energy into a high potential and using it in the direction of the purpose intended”* So, what I learned from that (but have not followed very well) was I could have several interests, but in order to be productive I must focus totally in the direction of what I want to accomplish at any given time, and cut out all distractions. (*The Man Who Tapped the Secrets of the Universe. By Glenn Clark)

My next model was Joseph Campbell, who died in 1987.  He was considered the world’s foremost authority on mythology. I heard it said about him that in his late forties, he still did not know what he was going to do when he grew up.  A scholar, he was interested in anthropology, biology, philosophy, art, history and religion.  For him life was an adventure.  When his university adviser pressured him to narrow his area of study, he reputedly said “to hell with it” and gave up his doctoral studies to go in the woods to read.  What came of all his studies was his book The Power of Myth, which wove together all his interests.  If you have a variety of interests, are you wondering how you can weave them into one offering that is uniquely yours? That has been my challenge!

Thirdly, I came across Burt Goldman , a contemporary mystic, teaching Quantum Jumping.  It is a method he devised for accessing any skill he desired to have, with amazing results. He teaches how to access a twin self in another universe, there being many universes and many versions of you.  Now that expands the possibilities! According to Burt Goldman, you could become a successful “you” in whatever field you choose, as Burt Goldman himself has demonstrated!

So, if you are feeling overwhelmed and feeling guilty that you cannot settle on any one thing, take heart.  One of the coaches I studied under, Suzanne Evans, wrote a book whose title she often repeats, “The way you do anything is the way you do everything”.  I despaired, because I circle around and around in my interests, never settling on any one.  Then I decided that though she meant it as a deterrent, I could see it as an advantage, remembering Joseph Campbell’s seemingly scattered mind as being very fertile and creative ,  able to create something entirely new.  So, if there is a missing piece to make it all work together for you, ask your twin in another universe! (Burt’s series of MP3s, Quantum Jumping, can be found on Amazon.)

From the desk of Charlotte Seager. MA

Breakthrough Transformational Coach

Thoughts create an emotional charge in the autonomic energy system.  E-motion is intended to motivate your reptilian brain into fight or flight, for your protection. In fight or flight, the energy is released and you come back into equilibrium.

If we have learned that good girls or boys don’t fight, or don’t cry., or that  it is selfish to want something.  That emotional energy gets bottled up.  We may have developed strategies to stay out of our feelings, perhaps by rationalizations or “shoulding” ourselves.  Then that energy or life force gets constricted in our muscles in various parts of our bodies.

Constricted energy feels like pain and robs us of passion and the   joy of living. Underneath the pain is sadness, sorrow, anger, grief or other emotions that we have not allowed ourselves to feel. Those are from the stories we have told ourselves.  Every telling adds more stuck energy.

Energy is just energy.  When we focus all our attention unconditionally on where the energy is stuck we are allowing it to express and release or move of its own accord, until all the stuck energy is spent.

Focusing on the peace that remains, and the light, love and life force that are the natural state creates a physical change in the neural pathways, and in the flow of energy in the body.

You can always find peace about any situation, no matter what it is.

My specialty is helping people release the stuck energy and find peace, and then they are able to feel passion!

Reflecting on reflections and on this world I create as a looking-glass, I thank all the beings I bring into my life so that I can learn who I Am.

You reflect me, as surely as I reflect you.  How wonderful to dance before the mirror of ourselves and see the pattern we make together, kaleidoscopic in its richness!

When you came into my life with all your troubles, I saw only your pain, I did not see my own.   But as I danced with you, something inside me said look, listen to the words you speak and heed them for yourself.  Oh yes, I opened up my eyes and saw that you and I are dancing the same dance.

You are at the end of your rope, you are in a dead end job, you’ve retired, your children have all left home:…Whatever your situation,you have a restless feeling that there is more to life than the daily grind.  You sense there is a deeper meaning to life than this.

I empower women to move out of an unsatisfactory life situation into a life that is crying to be expressed.  I help women identify what makes them come alive and coach them through a transformational process to where they confidently begin to live an inner directed authentic life.

You want to do your part and begin making a difference in the world.  You know there is a cause you would like to get involved with in a big way.  You know you have talents and gifts to share.  You just don’t know where to begin. Maybe you are afraid to step out into the unknown.  Wouldn’t it be nice to have someone believe in you and guide you through your transitional process? Wouldn’t it be nice to know there are others with similar interests, people with whom you can interact and with whom you may team up ?

How big is your pond? Is community action your thing?  Do you want to make a bigger splash?  Is the world your oyster? Do you have a big dream?  I’ll help you identify what your soul wants to do and together we can work out a plan of action for you to have a more meaningful life.

If this has piqued your interest, give me a call and we’ll set up a free exploratory session to see if you want to work with me toward  an expanded vision for your life and a fulfilling career..  You may call me at 931-256-7932 .  Or you may Skype me at charlotte seager.  I look forward to talking with you.